Online dating should i call him

I hope to see him again, but he will likely stop talking to me after he reads this—oops! I was on the fence with Jeff from the beginning. Thank you! Does this make me Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman? He asked me out for drinks and apps this week, so I gave him my number. He texted asking when we could hang out. I told him my week was jammed until the weekend and suggested he call me instead.

Well, my instinct was right about Jeff. There were lulls of awkward silence and he mostly talked about the only two things I knew about him from his Bumble profile: the entertainment industry and his dog. He asked me zero questions about myself the entire 15 minutes we spoke. And yeah, talking to someone you think is dreamy does give you awkward brace-face middle school flashbacks and makes you want to giggle and hang up. United States.

Type keyword s to search. Today's Top Stories. The Truth About "Getting Abs". I have been dating a man for a year off and on. In the past few months its been on. We were spending weekends together. Things were going good. A couple of weeks ago he said he loved me and wanted to marry me. He wanted to move to where hia job was sending him to. Of course i was on board with it all.

After he left my place we texted a few times. We had plans to do dinner that week. I called and left message. No returned call. That week was my bday and he sent flowers. I called again to thank him and sent a text. No response. I decided to let things be. Give space. But didnt hear back from him. Was that the right thing to do?

He finally messaged me to say he was out of town visiting family and that he will talk to me later. But still no call. He leaves for his job next week. I thought he wanted to share a life with me but there ia no followup or anything to that. Hi didly…. Not happening, girlfriend. But whatever it is, doing the silent treatment right now is mean and immature.

Let him go, girlfriend. Find someone who will make a REAL commitment to you. The best guys I knew in 20 years, were those who were actually straightforward, and with whom fixing the next date or having the next contact was very simple — and spontaneous as it actually should be.

Just my 2 cents…. Agree HST! Hi Bobby, I am a Moslem girl and knew this Moslem guy for about 4 weeks via online dating site. He told me that he was looking for a beautiful highly-educated spiritual girl who is marriage minded and wants to have kids in future. Which I am indeed!!

At the beginnig I was concern about our long distance and told him about my concern however i am open to relocate if i plan to marry him and asked him if he can see himself as to come and visit me soon after couple of talking over the phone?

Well ,Hi did think over it for a while and emailed me yes i can fly and visit you when you are a bit free …So then after I accepted to get on the phone ,. So we are like 9 hours apart…. He just calls me on Saturdays and we do webcam talk for about hours each time and we talk about our interests,our plans for future,our expectation from our marriage life and our future partner and stuff like that; as we both willing to find the Right One to marry with. Each time we talk each weekend we realize that it is progressing and feel that it says something maybe we are match to each other although he says heis much into me but actually he just calls me once during weekend…and just 1or 2 times texts messages during week.

Now my questions are : Can I trust a guy who is just calling me once in a week? I am actually interested in him and do not want to mess up with situation but would like to feel more passion from him..

How much there is chances to matty a guy from another country from far far away? Should I just keep going on with him or still looking for a nice guy in that online dating sites? What to do more to fascinate him by me? Thank you for your precious time to read my letter and thanks in advance for usefull information in your website.. What I would say is: 1: If you want him to call more often tell him! Say it would make you happy if you two could talk more during the week and tell him what you prefer.

Before you make any move, he should come to see you. But keep your eyes open and looking at the reality instead of the fantasy. Is it really possible? Be realistic, ok? Hi Bobbi! I met a man online about six weeks ago who lives in another state. We talked on the phone once and texted and emailed a few times. We have a lot in common and there seemed to be a mutual attraction.

We planned for me to come see him but two weeks after I bought my plane ticket he asked me not to come see him. His house is being foreclosed and he is very depressed and stressed about it. He said his friends and family are telling him that this is not a good time for him to be meeting anybody.

I told him I was sad not to be seeing him after all but I understood his situation and I agreed that his loved ones are right.

It his been two weeks now and I have not heard from him. Is this a lost cause? What should I do if anything? Should I let him call me? I am 49 and he is 54 and we have both been through divorce, him three times and me twice. The one mistake we both made is agreeing for me to stay at his house instead of at hotel. I am totally new to online dating and he mentioned that its a no-no to have someone you met online come to your house.

So we were off to a bad start in that respect too! Sorry Helga, but yes…please move on. For whatever reason he;s not ready. Remember that dating like a grownup is about taking care of yourself. Give this thought…and find one who can. Thank you so much for your kind and wise feedback, Brandi…this is my first foray into dating since my divorce and what a bummer!! I am moving on! Love your website too! I met this guy 2 weeks ago. Gave him my number and he called and text, not everyday, but I never initiated but did answer him.

It took about a week to get together becasue he asked me for coffee the day after I met him but I had plans. Then we made plans for the next thursday but I had to cancel due to work. We had a coffee it was great conversation and then he asked when I would be free for dinner. The date went great, he text that night said he had a great time and wanted to do it again.

That was the last I heard from him it has been a week. He is just recently seperated too. This is so different than dating when I was 20 years old. I am not sure if the text I sent the next day would make or break the deal. Should I text him and say hi or ask him what happened? He cancelled the date and I feel that he should make the effort to get in touch with me.

I am so dumbfounded??! You may never know why he disappeared, my friend. It could be one of a thousand things, of which have nothing to do with you. And he will stick around. And if you hear from him great.

Hi Bobbi thanks for the quick response. I am so glad I found this site and read stories that are just like mine. Its been a week and I am doing good. What really hit me was something I read on your blog saying why am I stressing over a guy I dont even know.

Coffee and Dinner hardly a chance to get to know someone. I am over thinking what did I do wrong, I showed up, had fun, gave him a great date. I couldnt have given any more than than.

A guy asked me out mid week and wanted to get together within a couple of days. We agreed to a date that weekend. He said he would call me to firm up plans. That weekend came and went with no call. The following weekend, he started texting me, once a day for 3 days. There is nothing in his texts to suggest an apology. Do I let him know he messed up? Truth is, if he were to apologize, I would want another date.

Ok not to text back at all? Thank you!! Warmly, Jenny. No need to make a big deal, just let him know you respect yourself and your time…and expect him to do the same. Hi Bobby, someone asked if it was okay to give my number to this guy she knows. I said yes. He texted me last Wednesday asking when a good time to call was. I got this text the next morning and texted him with a good time to call me. We spoke over the phone Thursday night. He unexpectedly called Friday to see how I am doing.

On Thursday he said he wants to call me Saturday night. We spoke on Saturday night. On Saturday he said he wants to talk to me again either Monday or Tuesday and that he is going to be in town next week and wants to meet me. We became Facebook friends about 4 hours after the call.

He added me as a friend. Any advice would be appreciated thanks. Hi Rachel. My advice is to live your life and if he calls, great! If not, ok too. I met a guy online. We spoke on the phone a few times, then he asked me out on a date.

Our first date went well. He seemed really into me. By the end of the date, he asked me out on a second date. I agreed to go out with him again. When I got home that night, I sent him a brief text message letting him know I had a nice time.

He responded to the text, expressing the same thing. Two days later, I sent him another text to say hello and wish him safe travels on his trip. He responded warmly and mentioned that he was thinking about me. Its been 6 days and I have not heard anything from him. I am quite puzzled, as I thought things were going well with us. I have never had this happen to me before, so I am not too sure how to handle this. Should I reach out to him again? I am used to being pursued by men.

In this scenario, it is almost starting to feel like I am doing most of the work. What are your thoughts? Hi Iphie. Sorry, but your last statement says it all. Who knows what happened between your date and now, but something has. And it has nothing to do with you. Remember that you hardly know him at all. Maybe premature future thinking. Move on with you life, ok?

If he calls again great. There are lots of men out there. Thanks so much Bobbi for your advice! I actually started to think that it had to do with me — I felt sending those text messages after the date may have made him think I was too eager, and affected his behavior towards me.

Hi Moon. I think most need an open, non-judgmental heart to greet them…just like we do. You might find some compassion there. Hope you do because there are a lot of nice men — just like women — looking for love.

Right on, sister. Thanks for your comment. I dated nice guy for over a month. We went out dancing once a week. Last date he drop me off and said he was going out town to meet some people. On Monday for 2 or three days.

He always asked me out on tues or wed. Before he left town he got in touch Monday morn and said if I could give him call because he leaving that afternoon. I said I can call u in afternoon, and he said I will be gone by then. So not word from him whole time he Gone. Then he ask me out on Thursday morn for fri night date. I text him I already had plans for weekend. He say ok thanks. Been six weeks now not heard from him. Shall I call or text Him? Before he left town I text him maybe another girlfriend your going to meet.

He text back oh goodness how did you guess? Was he just be cocky or was it truth not sure? I respond as soon as I can. I hope you see by now that this man should be forgotten…move on. When a man likes you, you know it. He goes out of his way to see you and talk to you.

You deserve more than this! Good for you! If not, you can continue to live your life. Believe me, there are a lot more out there than one guy! I met this guy when I was working part time in a restaurant. I too nodded shyly to him.

I got his number somewhere and took the courage to text him. He was excited and straight asked me out for dinner the next day itself. The first date was late as I my classes are all at night and he picked me up after my class. I could see that he was really tired. Hard labor work.

He asked for a second date and I knew everything just happened too fast due to the influence of alcohol plus I am really into him. It was all fine after that night. He sent me back early in the morning and the same night he initiated a text asking me how was I. The coming two days was stressful to me and I missed him so much.

I appeared in front of his place without thinking twice after 2 nights. He seem to be alright of me appearing in his place, even gave kisses before I left. He asked me for a 3rd date. He ignored a lot after that, got me thinking a lot and finally wanted to give him up until suddenly he calls a few days after asking again for dinner after my class. But he told me he wanted to see me and talk.

And he asked for lunch the next day. I agreed but the next day he had a little accident and broke his toe. I showed my care to him and then he asked for dinner again after a week. So I told him maybe some other day. Then he said what about the next day. So I agreed with the next day. It had been three days and he gone missing from my life. He is still alive of course seeing some of his updates in social network.

But I am really confused with this guy. I like him a lot and really want to know him more. I was chatting to a guy on internet. He wanted to see me quite a few times but I said no as I thought he was kidding or may be a play boy.

Last night around he said again do you want to meet up? I said yes in a funny way. He seriously came out and drove for 2 hrs to see me.

We went somewhere, sat inside the car as the shops were closed. He as really nice. He was a pleasant respectful guy. All I came to know is he is a bit messed up with his life so wanted to meet someone new. I appreciated his honesty. He even made me promise to see him again. After he dropped me home I texted him thanks i had good time. It was 3 in the morning. I called him just now, he said he was bz whole day and didnt hav internet on phn whereas i saw him online on watsapp.

I can clearly see he is lying. And while talking the call got disconnected. May be his phn died or I dont know. I called back it was switched off.. Still now he didnt call me back yet..

What do i do now? I really liked him. And he seemed really into me. Mostly he made me promise to see him again and he even wanted to exchange phones so that i do see him again. I really dont know what to do now. Please help!! Hi Sam….. I know this is frustrating but I think the article answers your question. Just live your life and if you calls again, great. Do you see what I mean? Go out and have a nice day. I care for him very much but cannot accept this relationship.

Great you walked away. Keep walking, ok? I see this type of dating advice all the time. I have 2 college degrees, have worked professionally for years and then built my own business. I want a partner who can be them self, express what they want and feel, and be honest enough to be vulnerable. Dating advice is a game. Trying to present yourself in a certain way, make sure not to show too much interest, etc.

If you want an honest relationship, then set the tone by being honest from the start. We always attract what we send out. Well, Tom, thanks so much for your opinion. Your advice is great: If you want an honest relationship, then set the tone by being honest from the start. Here something for you to ponder: Take your own advice. Perhaps you can make a little more investment in time and kindness before coming to such harsh conclusions.

Best of luck in love to you. He brings up some good points even if it may not apply to every situation. Your response sounds a little defensive. Is it likely I would hear on him. Bobbie I forgot to mention that this doctor told me he has never been dumped or refused by any girl and he was the one who was always dumping or refusing girls.

Hi Bobbie, on Saturday I have got a message from a guy on online dating which he likes to get to know me. I send more pictures of myself and he send me more pictures of him. He asked me if I want to have a kid so I told him its too late now to have a kid since I am almost I did everything you have advised. Told him it was nice talking to you and I hope we do it again and he said sure we will.

I even told him you have a very exciting job and I want you to tell me more about it…. I would really love to hear your advice and your great help. Hey,I have been talking to this guy for 2 months and we went on a date 5 times.

I was so excited and got a card for his new job to celebrate, then planning to bake a cake for him. I said we are supposed to meet tomorrow night tonight.

I did not reply him back. I got pissed off. It has been a week since this happened. He has not texted me still. What am I supposed to think? If u give me advice I appreciate it. I understand that his job occuppies him a lot but he finds time to call or text me whenever he get a chance. Well,to cut long story short…the day before we were suppose to meet he just suprised me, came into my house after not commumicating with me for the whole day. We were both excited about the next morning but Sunday came, got all dressed up and waited, he never came nor call.

Can you tell me what would have went wrong maybe. I have no idea what went wrong. And you may never know either. I know it feels bad but you cant control what others do. You can only control how you respond to it. It may help you to read my responses to the other questions and comments here. Be sure to do that, ok? I wonder btw how he found your home? Please be careful and take care of yourself. With love, Bp. Thanks for the reply. I made a mistake by giving him my address cause we were planning on our first date.

Actually, he was gonna pick me up for church thats why. I am so disappointed. Sounds like he came to check you out before the date to see if the connection was there.

You met online. And why does a stranger have your home address???! Dear and lovely Bobbi, Thank you so much for all your comments which helps a lot. Here is my situation. I have received a message from online dating I met you at the gym a lot of time it seems like you love exercising.

I do not know if I should send him a message again or just let it go. I checked my sent message and it went through What is wrong with these guys wow. Thank you again. Love Ani. N-E-X-T is my new favorite four letter word!

I have a situation I need help with. I am single with 3 children, 41 and divorced. I work full-time and raise my kids on my own. I have been at my job 14 years and have met a wonderful man there, work only. He started where I work 2 years ago and for this long I have felt like a teenager with a crush. I have not felt like this about anyone before. The last year or so we have been taking lunch together every now and then, I have brought him lunch to work during my off day.

He is 44, single, never married, no kids and Shy, shy, shy. Did I mention shy? He tells me we need to go do something sometime or go to a nice place for lunch, but never elaborates on it. I got him a nice, personalized gift for his birthday the other day and gave it to him privately at work. He forgot he told me his birthday a year ago and I remembered. He looked at me surprised. He tilted his head, smiled and just stared at me.

I catch him staring at me a lot, he goes out of his way to walk past me at work. He is just so shy, quiet and he never really had much of a out-of-work and family life. I have not either. Where should I go from here? Any ideas? Hi Cookie! Not the best approach. All you can do at this point is 1 nothing and just keep enjoying his company the same way or 2 say it straight out: do you want to go on a date some time? One last thing: Read the rest of the comments here. There are lots of great men out there!

Hi Bobbi, I enjoy all your responds, they are so helpful. Last Saturday when I spoke with him late night he asked me to send a picture while I am dressed up I was coming home from graduation party and I said no becuase I am tired and beside that you already have several pictures of mine.

He was suppose to call me this week to meet up but.. I am not really sure what happened and why he stopped calling me. I am controlling my self to not call him but is it right? I always have a problem with guys.. I am 37 and still single.

Hi Ani…move on sister. Are they showing off that they can rock a keg stand or that they traveled to Fiji and swam with stingrays? How someone initiates a conversation with you will say a lot about how they view you as a person and how they might treat you as a partner. Did they comment on your body in a sexual manner or did they ask you what breed your cute dog is in your picture?

You may get your fair share of cheesy pick-up lines, some can be endearing and charming while others can be crude and demeaning. Humor can be a wonderful icebreaker, but also remember you are worth more than a lame pick up line. Someone who truly wants to get to know you will take the time to do so.

After the initial ice breaker conversation, what does the rest of the conversation look like? Your first few conversations with someone new should be easy going. Additionally, if someone is giving you a checklist right away of all of the things they want in a future partner, this may be a red flag for some controlling behaviors. In a healthy relationship, you should feel free to be you. My friend agreed to go out with someone she met online and they had a really great time together.

They got dinner and talked for hours, and it was overall a very nice date. She was excited to see him again and he seemed just as excited. They made plans to go out again, but he canceled last minute, saying his cat had died. After giving him some time to cope with his cat passing away, he made plans to see her again and she was thrilled. He canceled the date last minute again because he said his grandma had died.